Hey guys! I really need some advice i am stuck, lost and confused. Idk who else to talk to/ask so here i am and would really appreciate your advice.
So i really like girl and if i am being honest i have never felt like this for anyone else before. I connected with her so well and we became almost like best friends in a short time. I haven’t opened up and connected with someone so well before and i can always relate relate with her so well.
However, she has a boyfriend but we became so close and were connecting so well i decided to tell her how i felt. I didn’t mean to disrespect her relationship and contemplated a lot on whether i should tell her or not but i finally decided I couldn’t keep it in anymore and needed to be honest about it. But in short, she told me she values the friendship, she also found herself to connect with me so well, i’ve become her best friend but she would like us to stay friends. Then she said she had to tell her bf about this whole thing and then they both decided its best if we kept some distance.
Ever since she told me that i have been trying my best to keep some distance but i think i am struggling to find the line between space and friendship and for some reason our convos haven’t stopped and we still keep talking (its been more than a month since this and we still talk like were good friends)
The problem is and the truth is i still really like her and can’t imagine myself without her ever and i am really struggling to move on. I can’t put myself out there for anyone else anymore because i guess part of me still hopes she will change her mind. I simply dont know what to do from here because its causing me nothing but pain everyday. What is keeping me going is just that slight hope she might consider me in the future
Now i need advice because i don’t know what i should do. Should i just continue to keep the convo going with her and we stay as good friends but idk if i can move on or should i start going cold with her with my responses and slowly move out of it? But the problem is i have connected with her so well i really dont want to lose such a good friend although i also cant tell how close we are now ever since i told her how i felt because ofc some dynamics have changed and she did say its better we kept some distance at that time
If i choose to distance myself completely and stop talking to her should i at least tell her about it and send her one final message explaining to her how hard its been for me and that i am choosing to do this for my own peace of mind and to help me move on or should i just start responding cold, try end the convo and disappear in silence?
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